Cupid says Im a bitch!

The Sudden Departure Random Brutal Love Master (RBLMf) Sweet. Dear. Loving. At Gate 18. Final call. You are The Sudden Departure. You've been in a lot of serious relationships. More than a few have ended ugly. Uglily. Whatever. Our guess is that you're a really fantastic girl who doesn't really know what she wants, and you've broken a few hearts as a result. You fall for people easily, and you enjoy the feeling of falling in love, but once you're there, either boredom or the old "grass is greener" syndrome sets in. The mind wanders, and with it goes the flesh. And then the toiletries. Your exact opposite: The Intern Deliberate Gentle Sex Dreamer We know you're not the classic "love 'em and leave 'em" type, at least not in a purely sexual sense. You have too many serious bonding tendencies for that. But even though you're theoretically looking to settle down, you don't settle long on one person. "Serial monogamist" is probably something you hear a lot. "Emotionally loose" is another way to put it. To the poor guys eating your dust and sniffing your panties, it doesn't really make much difference. Of course, it's not really your fault that people get hurt. You have every right to move on when you choose. ALWAYS AVOID: The Backrubber, The Gentleman CONSIDER: The Vapor Trail, someone just like you Link: The 32-Type Dating Test by OkCupid - Free Online Dating. My profile name: soulhavoc1973

I dont really know that I agree with this although about every boyfriend I have had has said pretty much the same thing, so I guess a better question is this. Is there anything WRONG with being happy not being lured into someone elses life and just celebrating your own?

Hey Calling all Blog Friends for heeeelp!

I know that only a few of you have read my book Cover Me. But for you that have I would be appreciative for the rest of my life if you visit this site.

http://www.publishamerica.com

Do a search in the mid page on the right for Author search.
Type in Authors name as Basham.

In the spot that says write reviews for you opinion on the book. If you dont want to I understand but the help it would give me in promoting the book would be astounding.

Thank you I Love you all in my blogger land.

If you havent read the book yet Ill be glad to send u the word format, but still I would like people to purchase it, even if I have to get it on discount and sell it for virtually nothing

Cover My Book@!

I added a photo of my book cover to my flickr album. I think PA did a great job on it. Let me know what you think!

Cover Me - Finally@!

Ms. Lynskey,

Here's an overview of where things go from here:

Your book will go to the printers today, April 24. From there, it generally takes between 3-6 weeks for the first copies to print. Your book will post on the PublishAmerica site soon after it goes to the printers. Pre-release letters will be sent, and your book can be pre-ordered for delivery as soon as they are printed. The official release date of your book will be June 26, 2006 (although it will be available sooner than that). PublishAmerica provides a cover picture and other pertinent information to the online stores, such as B&N and Amazon. These online stores often have a backlog, so it will be several weeks before you will see your book posted on these sites.

Have a great day!
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Well! I am off to have a great day. God help the person who tries to ruin it!

Ghetto Dial

I am sorry if this offends, but I feel like I am in the ghetto with my connection here. I cant get on my email, I cant use trillian, I cant use MSN, wtf is the purpose???

Fuck it, I am going to have to plant my own satellite up here before its all over with.

Love You D

Weeeeeeeeee Im connected for now... yipeeee

WEeeeeeEEEeeeeeEEEeeeee

I am all over this now. I have a lot to be doing on the net and no chances lately to do so. So it was time. It might be crawl up right now, which is pityful. But huge things are happening all over and all of them are looking up now!
Book officially was sent to the cover department today at 5pm. So I cant wait to see what they come up with.

Nightzzz

Ohzzzz

I am all over the net on messengers anonymous :p
MSN-Dragoncave@msn.com
AOL-Soulhavoc73
YAHOO-Soulhavoc1973
And omg, I even got old skool shit like ICQ-62512566.

Thanks be to Trillian :D

Nitezs

Cover Me - Living, Loving and Learning through Loss

Ok, so I added a subtitle to the book. Once I began to actually consider the marketing prospect of the book I realized that I needed something that outwardly showed what genre or purpose this book was written for. I actually just re-read my proofs of the book and can now see it in pdf form so that it looks like a real book on the inside. Now we go into the cover process and then it is finally ready for publishing. I guess I am getting a little more excited now, and worried of course. Other things have occured in my life since my last post that are just heartbreaking, but I dont really care to mention them at this point in time. I am sure I will eventually, if I can get over beating myself up over shit.
And Ta-Da! I now have an ISBN number! If you arent familiar with the book world then you have no idea what that is, if you are... good for you! Because tonight I am tying one on with some good friends and about to log off and go do so. Regardless, I am still here, on messenger, on email etc and will finally be able to get somewhat of an ISP since I now have a land line.
See you soon@!

Kewl Kwotes

"When the authorities warn you of the dangers of having sex, there is an important lesson to be learned. Do not have sex with the authorities."
Matt Groening.

"Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go it's a pretty good one."
Woody Allen.

"When you see a married couple walking down the street, the one that's a few steps ahead is the one that's mad."
Helen Rowland

"My advice to you is get married: if you find a good wife you'll be happy; if not, you'll become a philosopher."
Socrates.

"I've stopped drinking, but only while I'm asleep."
George Best.

"I don't like people who take drugs... Customs men for example."
Mick Miller.

"I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence, or insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me."
Hunter S Thompson.


And last but not least....
For some, life can be a real bitch.

Hate to State

I really usually hate to state the obvious but in light of recent events, our local weatherman having overdosed on heroin, half our county being on fire because someone dumped hot woodstove coals out in an already incredibly dangerously dry period, and then there are just the people I know who talk too much, drink too much and just act as if the words class and tact have never been placed in a dictionary or personality anywhere... I must state for the record...

People are wicked crazy and had any of them ever been witness to the old "What comes around goes around" theory they would all likely just climb in a hole somewhere and immediately stfu!@

Sharing the Wisdom

A quote has been stuck in my head for a few months now.

"Peoples action belies their guilt"

I have no idea who said this or where it came from. But I have been going out of my way to observe this. Sometimes someone does something rude, or disrespectful to you. Or perhaps they are just an unfaithful lover. But no matter what the situation or the person they always act out their guilt in an incredible way. Let me give you a an example and maybe tomorrow or 20 years from now you will see this in action yourself, and realize what you are witnessing.

Example
A friend borrows 20 dollars from you.

Innocent Friend: Still comes by. Apologizes for not paying you back yet and is still the same friend you loaned the money to. Honestly intends on paying you back but is having a hard time and sharing that truth with you.
Guilty Friend: Although you usually talk to this person 12 times a day on the phone and they stop by 10 times a week, they suddenly disappear from the face of the earth. This person is feeling guilt. They perhaps knew that they couldnt pay you back when they borrowed the money. If they thought they could, but in the end couldnt, then perhaps it wasnt intentional, but there is a lack of respect in just pretending like nothing is wrong. A good friend will never abandon the friendship, no matter who the responsible party in the break.

Sometimes you just screw up, or even accidentally screw someone over that you really care for or love. It involves shame and guilt and sadness, but in those situations try to imagine how the other party feels. Someone they loved did something to them that makes them feel insecure, or not as much of a friend as they thought. It might be embarrassing, or humiliating, but never be afraid to humble yourself. It will make you something that you wish others would be for you. It will enable you to sleep at night while others toss and turn with guilt. It will make you worthy of being called Friend.

Anxiety and Marketing

Ok I am beginning to get anxious about the release of the book. I have several old issues about it rambling around in my head as well as new ones. Of course the old demon is the most basic. Did I honor the lives of the guys who died enough that I am going to be proud for their parents and families to read it? I really hope so. I am sure that anytime a writer rights about real human lives, thei tragedies and their accomplishments, that we wonder if we are doing then true justice. Only time will tell on that one I suppose. But in the immediate future I am facing another issue. That is, how do I get that book to the people who need to read it. Considering it is a self help or self healing type of book my base intentions are to help others learn through lessons that come from pain and drama they could be free of if just informed, or counseled. And in reality comes the third issue that has plagued me as a writer. Do I hope this makes me a famous writer? Well hell yes, but not if it is destined to forsake the other two former concerns. I suppose I will be taking several copies to local junior high and high schools in the Roanoke Valley and Bedford County. And a very good friend who is a psychologist suggested that I donate copies to the Red Cross as well as United Ways in the locale. When the book is published the publisher will be placing an ad in the Roanoke Times Arts and Entertainment section advertising the book. I know I need to get started on building a very basic page related to the book alone and of course having links to the books online store location, but there has to be more I can do. The publisher also sends out a flyer to a hundred people whom I put on an address list.

So, what am I missing? Does anyone have any type of marketing experience or just simply a good idea or addition to things that I may be missing or just having a brain overload in which I can't seem to nail down a damn thing!

Walking Contradiction

I do not mean for this post to be taken offensive in any way. I actually found this list on a site and although I thoroughly agree with it I only hesistated to post it because of the fact that is normally only the self-righteous who go out of their way to "preach the word." So here, its not my word, but I agree with it completely.

Top Ten Signs You're a Fundamentalist Christian

10 - You vigorously deny the existence of thousands of gods claimed by other religions, but feel outraged when someone denies the existence of yours.

9 - You feel insulted and "dehumanized" when scientists say that people evolved from other life forms, but you have no problem with the Biblical claim that we were created from dirt.

8 - You laugh at polytheists, but you have no problem believing in a Triune God.

7 - Your face turns purple when you hear of the "atrocities" attributed to Allah, but you don't even flinch when hearing about how God/Jehovah slaughtered all the babies of Egypt in "Exodus" and ordered the elimination of entire ethnic groups in "Joshua" including women, children, and trees!

6 - You laugh at Hindu beliefs that deify humans, and Greek claims about gods sleeping with women, but you have no problem believing that the Holy Spirit impregnated Mary, who then gave birth to a man-god who got killed, came back to life and then ascended into the sky.

5 - You are willing to spend your life looking for little loopholes in the scientifically established age of Earth (few billion years), but you find nothing wrong with believing dates recorded by Bronze Age tribesmen sitting in their tents and guessing that Earth is a few generations old.

4 - You believe that the entire population of this planet with the exception of those who share your beliefs -- though excluding those in all rival sects - will spend Eternity in an infinite Hell of Suffering. And yet consider your religion the most "tolerant" and "loving."


3 - While modern science, history, geology, biology, and physics have failed to convince you otherwise, some idiot rolling around on the floor speaking in "tongues" may be all the evidence you need to "prove" Christianity.

2 - You define 0.01% as a "high success rate" when it comes to answered prayers. You consider that to be evidence that prayer works. And you think that the remaining 99.99% FAILURE was simply the will of God.

1 - You actually know a lot less than many atheists and agnostics do about the Bible, Christianity, and church history - but still call yourself a Christian.

Are you warm or cold?

Well I meant to make a post about how many jobs Ive been through and how many idiots Ive seen since my last major post but for some reason the house Im sitting in is like 80 degrees and Im dying of heat exhaustion at the moment. I do wonder often about people and I think sometimes something this petty can even be a deal breaker or a strain in a relationship but.....

Are you cold natured or warm natured?

*FYI. If you need an explaination I mean basically are you ususally warm compared to most people in the same environment or are you the one thats always cold and shivering in average temperatures?*

I am a 70 degrees girl. If the house I am in can be 70 degrees winter or summer temp then I can happily exist.

Yawn

Sooo tired. Ive been through 2 jobs this month trying to find something that works out for me in all directions. I should have some internet time tomorrow to post, but for now, it took me the last few hours just reading and catching up on all Ive missed in the last few weeks. So I am going to celebrate my incoming slumber with a Miller. Then off to bed!

Ill be back to post tomorrow...er.. later today!

In 2005

In 2005 I learned quite a few things.

At the first of the year in 2005 I wrote a post about a couple of friends I had originally started using my web log for anyway. I began the year in a new mood, a mood that was determined to stop wasting time. Part of this post is also going to be quoted directly near the end of my book that I am patiently awaiting an edited version of.

Read the post here to understand more

At the end of the post itself I made a promise. Not a resolution and not an idea. I said at the end that this was my year to quit wasting time. I really had only the faintest of ideas of what that might entail. I knew I had been toying with the idea of making one major text file or word pad of my thoughts and blog post on the deaths of 3 young guys that I once knew and will always love. I never really considered anything beyond making the file for my own personal use. The hidden results of that post changed the world I had been living in for over 12 years. Someone emailed me a reply to that post and in the end what I got was well... it was an amazing fucking story full of death and pain and power and peace. It was a story of losing love and gaining a soul. From that one post a lot of things that had led me up to writing the personal file had all come to make sense. Suddenly in one quick moment I had much more meaning to my life. When people say things like 'I want to know why am I here?' and 'What lesson should I have learned from this?' they usually never gain a satisfactory answer to any of those questions. In that one single moment I got all those answers. Once I added the last part of the story to the real life autobiography the story became what I believe to be pretty gripping one. I am satisfied with 2005. I vowed to quit wasting time and I did.

I am starting to get more and more excited about this book about to be put into print. But as I anticipate any changes a nice selling book will bring to my life, I still stop and consider first that what is imporant is that it may change the life of someone else. I guess thats why I havent gotten any full blown insane excitement over the $$ prospect of it yet. I really just cant wait to see what the editor is hacking off of it!

My friend Jimmy!

I promised to post a few pix so here they go.

My friend Jimmy!! I was gonna put him on Ebay but I figured with so many hits per day someone here might want em. Hes gonna cost ya 50 bucks and shippin and handlin is on you!

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Oddly enough I have no pix of Jimmy without his finger in his nose.


My friends Cathy, or Janet from my book. Bobby and myself hiding back there behind Bobby (blobby as I like to call em)

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Here is how Eddie sleeps. Eddie the fearless American Pit Bull Terrier!

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Here is my cousin Mickey. He is quite drunk at the time the photo was taken!

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More later!!

Here is my son Mike. He agreed to let me put this picture of him and Eddie on my site!

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No Resolutions!

Im not really a resolution maker. I doubt I ever will be. But I have decided to grasp onto some new 'ideas' at the beginning of each year. There is no pressure this way. It's not that I can't handle pressure or stress, its almost as if I thrive on it. I've been really lucky in the brain and soul that I was born with, or learned or earned, but I just don't stress the things that I guess I should. More or less my brain and my heart war with each other internally about stuff. Sometimes its as if I can even cut that off, ignore the struggle and come back at a later date to find it resolved itself. I suppose that is why I have been referred to as 'unfeeling' or 'cold' by some people. I am never those things. Its just that I cant bring myself to lie to myself or to inflict my internal struggles onto other people. I really judge no one terminally. I've never felt that there isn't one single person I couldn't learn something from. I honor wisdom in others, and refuse to accept anyones ignorance and make it my own. I am firm in my beliefs and strong and solid in my opinions. Stupidity and bitterness disgust me. I'll never be the bitter old bitch who sits on her front porch and screeches at kids for 'walkin in my yard' or anything else so petty. I'll be more likely to be the 'crazy old lady' down the street who comes out and drinks a beer with the youngin's when they are partying in the streets like I do now. I will always love football and remain a dedicated Philly fan to the death of either myself or the game. I do not fear death though I don't neccesarily welcome it either. Life is a lot easier to enjoy if you dont go around thinking and worrying about which of your stupid, yet fun activities might kill you.

So three things I got ideas about doing this year and one I have already done at least once.

Wear my glasses more and give my eyeballs a break from the constant contact lense damage. A cut on your cornear hurts like a bitch and I dont want one of those in 2006.
Lose 20 damn pounds and keep it off. Seriously, I have gained 20 pounds since my last doctors visit and I am now at the unacceptable weight for my own personal taste and being able to eat is in danger soon.
Im taking a page from schaaps post about hitting up a park with a friend or two in the dark. Doing more things to keep my mind and soul as youthful as I am trying to keep my damn weight.

Then there is the book. I havent recieved the edited copy yet but I am very happily awaiting it!

Peace

Beer, Beer, Beer, Beer, Beer, Beer!

Plain and simple. I want to know your 3 favorite beers on earth. I dont care if they are energy beers, regular old beers, hippy beers, beer flavored beer or what the hell ever. This is a simple poll that I plan on using for information in the book I am writing so be honest! If you secretly like the beast or old mil then just say so! I want your top three so here are mine!

Tilt - A stronger 6.6% version of sparks energy beer. The shit really kicks!
Coors Light - I mean if I am just waltzing into the store to grab a 12 pack, the silver bullet has always been my old faithful.
Moosehead - Ok I started drinking these way back when I was too young to drink. But that was the day I learned to appreciate a fine Canadian brew!

Salt Water Taffy Last Forever

Apparently it also has lasting emotional effects. I was talking to my son on Xmas day and he made this comment.

"I dont really remember much about being little. All I remember was that time you caught me with the candy."

???

What candy? I asked.

"I dont know, salt candy? Thats all I remember. That and being scared for my life. You just knew I had it and I was sure I hadnt made any noise getting it"

Back goes my mental file log. Waaaay back to around 1994 where I remember a friend giving me a box of salt water taffy. I recall putting it in the fridge even though her first comment was about how that shit last forever and never rots or loses flavor.

I was sitting in my apartment sewing a button back on a pair of his pants when he came running in from outside. He was either 5 or 6 at the time. I didnt hear him get the candy from the fridge which is amazing because I have nearly sonic hearing abilities. What busted him out was the look on his face. When he was headed for the front door I glanced over at him and he had the look about him as if he was expecting something to split my head open and crawl out of my cranium. When I looked at him he stopped moving. Just stood there frozen like a deer in headlights. I looked down, he took a step. I looked back up he stopped again.

"Ok, what the hell do you have in your pockets?" Most 5 year olds dont even recognize pockets on their pants, yet this childs hands were in his pockets up to his elbows.

Suddenly he looked like a kid on his first rollar coaster ride heading down the first hill. Eyes huge n all. I could hear a faint strangling noise as if he was about to scream.

"Cough it up, put it on the table"

Onto the table was dumped at least half of the box of salt water taffy. (Damn big ass pockets on kids pants these days)

Snickering I remember telling him "Oh yea I would have never noticed 30 pieces missing"

I made him leave the candy and then about a half hour later I took the same candy out to him on the playground. I didnt mind him having it, it was the point of him thinking he could slip by me with something.

Until recently I thought I still had to hide the deviant parts of my personality from him. Now, for one, I think he reads my blog. And 2, I raised him I suppose, so he has to be mentally as tough as nails. Then of all things he brings me a movie last week and tells me to check it out. Its called 28 days later. About 30 minutes into it I decided that he is far more deviant then I. So who is learning from who these days?

Your Blogging Type is Kind and Harmonious

You're an approachable blogger who tends to have many online friends. People new to your blogging circle know they can count on you for support. You tend to mediate fighting and drama. You set a cooperative tone. You have a great eye for design - and your blog tends to be the best looking on the block!

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