Thursday, February 08, 2007

The loss of Innocence

When I was 12 I met the girl who I had no idea was going to be my best friend for life. We spent our time picking honeysuckle and fingerpainting hummingbirds and roses. Nary a harsh word came from our wonderfully innocent lips. La La La De De De....

Okay okay maybe we REALLY spent our time picking on our other friends and the hummingbirds and roses were REALLY tattoo's that we had both gotten by the time we were 20 or so but it was still just as lovely to us. Its fair to say that since we met we have had the chance to do about everything together. I know her kids, and they know me, she knows my kids and they know her. Its all been a grand example of when people write BFF on something except this time it really lasted. And luckily and oddly enough we both ended up with men who .. er... lets say walk a much straighter line then we do. Not that I am bragging, I am not. I am very thankful for my innocent man and I know Cathy is thankful for hers. So we started our friendship in Roanoke within walking distance from one another. And here, 21 years, holy crap did I just say 21 years? Yes 21 years later we ended up completely by accident living in another county and still within walking distance of one another. (Well we would have to walk since neither of us is currently allowed to drive) And again ironically, when she met T and I met D it was both within a month or so of each other. So even today we have both been with our innocent men for the same amount of time. My innocent one has put up with Cathy a bit and her innocent one has put up with me a bit too, albeit not always in a smiling loving manner, they still manage to cope with us. So while this post is also a tribute to my innocent man, this is REALLY a post to Cathys innocent man. Last friday he generously took me to weewee in a cup in our county. Then tomorrow he will again. Next week he has to take Cathy to see her P.O. and is still kind enough to take me for my weekly weewee. So I fashioned this mspaint picture to show how giving this innocent man really is.

THANK YOU T for putting up with both of us all along. And thanks for driving the felon xpress. Without you we both might be in jail... again.


Kuan said...

Isn't it nice to know that there are some people on the planted who love us, even if they know all about us?

People are a mystery to me always have been I suppose they always will be, but I like to ponder them none the less. I never actually "grew up" with any one when I was a kid, we moved around to much. I met my first life long friend when I was 19, Ann (I've known her 23 years now), she is one of the finest people I know. I used to ride my bike to see her now I have to fly.
Ann and I never had to ride the Felony express but I'm sure had we been caught we would have had a season ticket as well. It was the 80's there was no such thing as innocence in those days, just a lot fucking around figurativel and lieterally.
I guess if were talking about those who put up with our less then good choices it would have to be my Mom. She bailed me out of jail, she came and got me from the hospital in the middle of the night after I'd been a really bad car accident. She yelled at me saying its 3am you couldn't get hurt during the day? I replied "at least your not looking at me under a sheet. She took me home and I literally crawled to her apt the next morning, I was hurt bad. I runed my best pair of jeans in the accident, they had a big hole in them. So what did my Mom do, what any good mother would do.
She went out and stole me a new pair.
True story.
She dressed me up for New Years eve, carfully covering my two badly blackend eyes, that is love for sure.
But there was resiprosity in our relationship as I'm the one she called after one to many brandies crying on the phone.
I guess for some of us our innocence is lost the day we are born...
But all in all I don't think I'd have it any other way.


Azathoth100 said...

It's always good to have a good partner by your side. I'm glad of my little Babushka. She's innocent in a way that I haven't been for so long. Glad things are going good in the land of romance for you. Also glad that you and your friend have withstood time. Mine is currently in bOregon, but after almost 30 years we are as close as ever in heart.

Joy said...

Kuan - 'So what did my Mom do, what any good mother would do.
She went out and stole me a new pair' OMG I laughed so hard I cried. That IS a great story. I am glad you have never had to take the felony express but its just like you said in my opinion, most of that is just chance. Chance is I got caught this time. Ive been way too lucky for years so I cant really get angry about it.

Az - Ive had a few great friends in my life, but never have I met someone I regretted not being able to know better until the day you first posted on my blog.

Both of you, I know it seems almost generic to say so, but we truly do share so much in common its astounding. So close at heart and so far apart. You both have such kind hearts it leaves me speechless often. That is one great feat.