Monday, November 15, 2004

Reminds me

This only goes to remind me that there are people that are worth calling friends and there are some who just are not and never will be a true friend. When I think back to the wonderful friends that I have had and lost to many things, I realize that its possible to have more friends that good some day, its just not as probable.
I do also believe that the small world we trap ourselves into daily, the beaten path that gets us to and from our days and nights, we have ignored the fact that there are others just like us, even soulmates or friends who will never know each other at all. In the long journey that has been my blog, I have been trying to make meaning out of what I was supposed to learn from the deaths of my two best friends in the world. From the horrible feelings it evoked to the person it made me in the end. It has made me better I know, and worse as well. But in making me better it has definately taught me one thing, that I think it takes most of mankind far longer to learn. And that is appreciation.
Appreciate any and all connections you can make with other people. Remember that deep inside you truly know whether or not someone is really your friend. When you have a doubt, a hurtful one, it might just be time to let it go.
As always, if you set something free.... right? Well, thats how it is.

7 comments:

zaque said...

nice to meet you, joy.

BM, The Necessary Movement said...

Isn't life grand! All the ups and downs? It's a fucking blast.

Sincerely,

BM

Irie said...

friends...not many even know the definition..
that old 'fair weather thing..' Or the ' a friend with weed...' theres another word people forget..unconditional. So many strings atttached anymore you can get to feel like a rubber-band ball...
Theres maybe 2 , possibly 3 that I can use that title on..( besides my kids..Im talking adults..)
Is it becuase Im horrible? Or that I smell ? or that I have a sense of humor like a toaster?
no..none of those things are me...I just know from 39 years experience ... that the old ' out of sight out of mind' therpy is true as well....
People should walk by and a personal manual should fall outta their asses..would make making 'friends' so much more simple..
I dont have but one physical friend ( i.e that I can touch) and one living in this box in front of me...
I can possibly carry around a lie detector test everywhere I go...

Azathoth said...

Some people are worth holding on to. I've sometimes held on long after I should have, but I've seen that day when you couldn't say what's on your mind anymore. As BM will vouch, I try and never miss an opprotunity to let those I care about know how important they are to me. You can talk to headstone all you want, but you can't be sure anyone's listening, so tell them while you can. If you have to let go, try and do so gently and let them know the journeys been fun and that someday you may walk together again.

BM, The Necessary Movement said...

I vouch, he tells me he loves me a lot. I will never forget.

Bookend said...

Thank you Joy, for your words of encouragement...to all those people who spend so much time "hiding" in the shadows of their emotions...to all the people who forget why they fell in love...love being platonic or romantic...

I appreciate your posts and I appreciate you...even though I don't even know you...

Joy said...

Just as I appreciate you Bookend and Dan, Kelley, Azathoth, BM, Stepp, and all of those who take the time to say what they mean.

Sometimes you can find the truest of friends in the strangest of places. And I deeply believe after losing my friends, that yes Az, one day I will walk with them again. As well as having realized and appreciate the time I did get to spend with them. If I could have 5 minutes with those friends right now, can you imagine how very much Id appreciate that?

I think thats how you should treat a true friend always. As if you only have a few minutes left with them before they are gone for good. After all, it is possible, but its also good for our souls as well. But alas, if you dont find the person worth treating like that, then perhaps it is better to find someone whom you would feel that bond to.