Tuesday, November 30, 2004

To burn or not to burn....

Ok.
So court is over now. Im free of the bond that held me here. But jesus christ did I realize something today.

He came to court with his mom and dad. Ok, so he cant drive. So he should be there with someone. His mom tried to go into the court room with him. Man, I know what kind of man I need now. One that can make a move without taking his whole family with him. Fuck those people.

That asshole beat me like a rag doll for 4 years, and they never once did a damn thing to help me deal with him. But sure as fuck as soon as he mentioned leaving me because I refused to watch him drink every weekend, they ran up on the scene to his rescue. This is sick and sad in my opinion. Walking by me, giving me dirty looks. I just sat there laughing. I couldnt help myself. Any 34 year old man who brings his mother to court with him has just proved he isnt the man that they constantly are trying to convince him that he is.

So today I realized I need a man who isnt afraid to go to court without his mommy.

So, with all that being said. Id like to take this time to thank them for nothing. To thank them for proving how right I was not to trust another ignorant family with anything I am, or know, or might be one day. Thanks to them for proving that the world IS full of fucked up people because their parents dont raise them right. Thanks for showing me how very sickening you treat someone who did nothing but take shit off of your alcoholic son for 8 years. Thanks for proving that parents who enable their childrens mistakes and bad habits, are no different, and no better then the children themselves.



Just my opinion.
On a side note....
I am going to be taking a trip to Orlando Fla from December 10th to the 20th. Yay 4 me.

5 comments:

Azathoth said...

Glad to hear your done with him. Men who hit women arn't good for women. Actually they're not good for anything. Have fun in Florida. I'm glad for you to be away from him. From the little I know of you your a damn good person and you deserve better. Not that life normally gives us what we deserve, but at least we know when we do. Smile, and enjoy an abuse free holiday season. Smile and if your going to see iriebutterfly tell her I say hi.

BM, The Necessary Movement said...

Wow this guy sounds scary!!!!!!! I am sorry you made such a bad choice with that guy. Good luck with the next one.

a pointer...
if he even raises a hand to hit you please leave him. he is not worth it!!

Good luck friend

Irie said...

And you KNOW Ill be driving up to get you..IM sure you know this!
muahahaha

Bookend said...

Been there, done that....

thank you for sharing...it is always helpful for me to know that my experiences were not something I went through alone...

GOOD LUCK to you and have a BLAST in Florida...being in CT I am very jealous of your warm trip...

I used to live down your way...Christiansburg, VA to be exact...interesting place...worked in Roanoke for a bit...

Glad to hear you've freed yourself of him...sorry he is so enabled by his family...but that's not your problem anymore...FREEDOM! FREEDOM!! FREEDOM!!!

Joy said...

Very much thanks for all the comments that strengthened my spine :). Its been over for quite some time but with this court date hanging over our heads it was still, there.... There enough to get drunken phone calls and be called the same old names, just in a new place.

I look forward to the future, even if its not headed in such a great direction at the moment. No matter what, its not taking 2 steps backwards back to where I was with him.

Thanks again for all your support and encouragement.

And kewl bookend, Christiansburg is very close and Im betting still a tad warmer right now then CT. I wish I could find work in Roanoke right now myself, job market has been sucking hard for the last 3 years here.